You can do better. It started one night when we realized that we were both pining over the respective guys that we were seeing (or maybe more accurately, trying to see) and evaluating our own behavior towards them, asking what we could have, should have, would have done differently.
Then we realized that we could have, should have, would have done nothing. If the way these men were treating us was making us unhappy, then why should we be questioning ourselves? And "You can do better" was born.
We realized that if someone's behavior is a source of unhappiness or discontent, then not only would we be unable to change the person to make us happier, but it wouldn't even be worth the effort! So we made a list of everything that made us unhappy, everything that we should not allow ourselves to settle for, and said that if someone we were seeing belonged on the list, then we could do better. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's heartbreaking, but it's always true. And once it was written down, it was like a big dose of reality and empowerment rolled into one.
The purpose of "You can do better" is not to set impossible standards or refuse to compromise. "You can do better" is about not compromising respect and fulfillment. It doesn't matter if he's into you or not, but if he can't pull it together for you, then you can do better!
If he makes you pay for your own drinks, then you can do better!

40 comments:

  1. 快樂是你與生俱來的權力,它不應該取決於你完成什麼。 ........................................

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  2. 快樂的微笑是保持生命康健的唯一藥石,它的價值千萬,卻不要花費一文錢........................................

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  3. 當身處逆境時,要能忍一時之氣,吃一時之苦,並及早確立自己的目標,總有一天,你會嘗到那甘美的果實。.............................................

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  4. 噴泉的高度,不會超過它的源頭。一個人的事業也是如此,它的成就絕不會超過自己的信念。..................................................

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  5. 量力而為,別勉強了,Cut your coat according to your cloth...................................................

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  6. 愛情是一種發明,需要不斷改良。只是,這種發明和其他發明不一樣,它沒有專利權,隨時會被人搶走。..................................................

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  7. 很棒的分享~~~來留個言囉~~~~.................................................................                           

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  8. 偶爾上來逛逛,下次不知是否還有緣再進來,先祝您平安順利!!!............................................................

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  9. 一時的錯誤不算什麼,錯而不改才是一生中永遠且最大的錯誤............................................................

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  10. Never hesitate to hold out your hand; never hesitate to accept the outstretched hand of another..................................................................

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  11. 當一個人內心能容納兩樣相互衝突的東西,這個人便開始變得有價值了。............................................................

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  12. 一個人的價值,應該看他貢獻了什麼,而不是他取得了什麼............................................................

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  13. 噴泉的高度,不會超過它的源頭。一個人的事業也是如此,它的成就絕不會超過自己的信念。........................................ ........................

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