You can do better. It started one night when we realized that we were both pining over the respective guys that we were seeing (or maybe more accurately, trying to see) and evaluating our own behavior towards them, asking what we could have, should have, would have done differently.
Then we realized that we could have, should have, would have done nothing. If the way these men were treating us was making us unhappy, then why should we be questioning ourselves? And "You can do better" was born.
We realized that if someone's behavior is a source of unhappiness or discontent, then not only would we be unable to change the person to make us happier, but it wouldn't even be worth the effort! So we made a list of everything that made us unhappy, everything that we should not allow ourselves to settle for, and said that if someone we were seeing belonged on the list, then we could do better. Sometimes it's funny, sometimes it's heartbreaking, but it's always true. And once it was written down, it was like a big dose of reality and empowerment rolled into one.
The purpose of "You can do better" is not to set impossible standards or refuse to compromise. "You can do better" is about not compromising respect and fulfillment. It doesn't matter if he's into you or not, but if he can't pull it together for you, then you can do better!
If during your date, you get a fortune in your cookie that says, "Watch your relations with other people carefully; be reserved," then you can (probably) do better!

1 comment:

  1. Lachki BrownNovember 11, 2010 at 7:15 PM

    Then, in that case, you should (probably) stop reading any of the following fortune cookies...

    Allure
    Australian Women's Weekly
    Bis
    Bitch
    Burda Fashion
    Bust
    Cahoots
    Canadian Living
    Chatelaine
    Cosmopolitan
    Cleo
    Croissant
    Curve
    Elle
    Essence
    Ebony
    Ettelaat-e Banuvan
    Family Circle
    Femina
    Filament
    First for Women
    Flare
    Glamour
    Good Housekeeping
    Grazia
    Gynaika
    Harper's Bazaar
    Hello Magazine
    Homemakers Magazine
    House Beautiful
    Indianapolis Woman Magazine
    In Style
    In Touch Weekly
    JJ
    Ladies' Home Journal
    Latina
    Life & Style
    LaIsha
    Lucky
    Lucire
    Marie Claire
    Martha Stewart Living
    Moondance magazine
    More
    Ms.
    New Idea
    Nylon Magazine
    O, The Oprah Magazine
    Olivia
    Parenting Magazine
    Pink
    Quarante
    Real Simple
    Redbook
    Sapna magazine
    Self
    Shape Magazine
    Tatler
    Tea Moderna
    Texas Family
    The Lady
    Venus Zine
    VIVmag
    Vogue
    W
    We Women Today
    Woman
    Woman's Day
    Woman's Own
    Woman's Weekly
    Women's Post Magazine
    Women's Health
    Women's World
    Zan-e Rooz

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